A few weeks ago, a friend I have known for 22 years got a pretty big promotion. I immediately sent a text message, “Congrats! Great news and well deserved”. Few minutes later, I got a text, “Thanks man! Really excited.” Then I did something increasingly rare in this day and age – I PICKED UP THE PHONE AND CALLED HIM. And he did something even more rare – HE PICKED UP!
Although we’re close friends, and have interactions every few days on our WhatsApp group ranging from topics like football (real and NFL), politics, the economy, our next trip, and others, we realized we hadn’t spoken for over 6 months. The connection was immediately refreshed.
The closeness and connection that we can feel in person is exponentially greater than text messages or emails. In absence of meeting in person, a phone conversation (or video chat these days) is a good proxy. With social media and electronic communication, we feel “connected” to many people but studies have shown that meaningful connections with fewer people drive greater happiness than surface connections with many.
It’s a simple suggestion – think of a good friend you haven’t spoken to in over 3 months, and give them a call. The upside (happiness) is well worth the risk (waiting for 4 rings and hanging up).
If you’re sold, you can stop reading. In case you need more convincing, below are some ways to get around common reasons to not call:
So, who you gonna call?
YOSD Founder & CEO